I have heard it said before that you can group the fruits of the spirit into three simple categories. The first three are more inwardly Godly traits. The second three are things we show to other people, and the final three are things that are simply good character traits. Gentleness, the penultimate fruit, definitely falls into the latter category; it’s just a good thing that will help us get through life easier. We can all be gentle with things when we feel like it, but that really isn’t true gentleness. It’s more about getting to the point where we’re naturally gentle all the time, without even thinking about it. I think what sets a truly gentle person apart from the rest of us is that they are gentle with everything that it’s good to be gentle with, rather than just with the very most important things.
Also, don’t get fooled into thinking that gentle people = soft/weak people; that is an absolute myth. Being gentle doesn’t mean being weak, it just means not being overly aggressive when we don’t need to be.
My final thought on this topic is that we don’t only need to be physically gentle with people and things, but we need to be gentle when we speak to people as well, especially people who aren’t confident at that time. If we aren’t gentle when we speak, we are at far greater risk of causing offense by saying something rash, and then we will instantly start to lose respect from people, and that can cause arguments and fall outs. So why not just let go of all the trouble we cause for ourselves by not being gentle, and instead pray that God will bless us with it instead?
A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. Proverbs 15:1